hi i am new to this game! my mother lives 100 miles away and has some heart failure and wary forgetful s hospitalised over chriristmas. for peace of mind i arranged fro her to have a carer come in twice a day to make sure she is ok and help with anything she needs doing. this is through a company. i now understand the carer is taking mum on shoppping trips, out for lunch and has even taken her to her home for a cup of tea. none of this is in the original care plan! it is probably all innocent but i am not sure it is being done under the tterms of the care company and seems to be stepping over boundaries of proffessional behaviour. i dont want to get the carer in trouble but nor do i want her to be " befriending" mum or taking advantage of her. being so far away its hard to know exactly what is going on. can anyone advise? i htought i might write to the carer and tell her she must stick to the care plan and any other activities must be done with the awareness and consent of the care company. what says everyone.