Hi everybody, I am new to the forum, which I am so pleased I have found and would be grateful for any advice.
I share my house with a companion, who is 77.
I have concerns over a few things,
he frequently leaves the gas hob burning after using it, I have come home many times to this.
We have discussed and tried to arrange a routine of switching it off before removing pan etc. but it doesn't seem to have helped.
He was recently very embarrassed to have forgotten his PIN numbers when at checkout in supermarket and he had to return home for me to then go and pay for his items.
He seems to have difficulty grasping anything you tell him in conversation, which sadly has turned to having very little conversation at home, as I get so frustrated, which I feel guilty about.
It appears he only grasps instructions if you give minute details, an example being, I had some joggers in the bathroom and said to him, don't put these in the wash as I will use them tonight, so he replies, ok I will wash them with mine, so I repeated what I said he then said the same again, I then repeated and added that I will use them for' training' tonight, which he then seem to grasp, stating why didn't you say you wanted them for training in the first place then I would have known. So we got there in the end. This sort of conversation occurs frequently.
Many things seem to go 'missing' in the house, some reappear in odd places or not at all. One example, I couldn't find my kitchen scales, I eventually found them in the oven, he apparently had been tidying up, although still denies he put them there.
He puts dirty plates, dishes etc, back In the cupboards.
Recently showing some family photos to a friend he 3 times said his grandson was his stepson.
The tv remote is a no go, it has been explained so many times, that I have given up.
He has also recently paid somebody twice for the same thing, no recollection of paying the first time.
He does at times get frustrated with his poor memory and at these times I do try to kindly suggest that he visits the GP, but he never will.
It seems very petty now, writing these things, but I'm wondering if this is normal for old age, or if there could be a risk of being dementia. Also whether I should share these concerns with his family.
Please don't think of me as a bad person for having these concerns and I am not being picky, but am generally concerned with his wellbeing. And general safety in the house, ie, leaving gas burning
Thank you for reading/listening :
Tily
I share my house with a companion, who is 77.
I have concerns over a few things,
he frequently leaves the gas hob burning after using it, I have come home many times to this.
We have discussed and tried to arrange a routine of switching it off before removing pan etc. but it doesn't seem to have helped.
He was recently very embarrassed to have forgotten his PIN numbers when at checkout in supermarket and he had to return home for me to then go and pay for his items.
He seems to have difficulty grasping anything you tell him in conversation, which sadly has turned to having very little conversation at home, as I get so frustrated, which I feel guilty about.
It appears he only grasps instructions if you give minute details, an example being, I had some joggers in the bathroom and said to him, don't put these in the wash as I will use them tonight, so he replies, ok I will wash them with mine, so I repeated what I said he then said the same again, I then repeated and added that I will use them for' training' tonight, which he then seem to grasp, stating why didn't you say you wanted them for training in the first place then I would have known. So we got there in the end. This sort of conversation occurs frequently.
Many things seem to go 'missing' in the house, some reappear in odd places or not at all. One example, I couldn't find my kitchen scales, I eventually found them in the oven, he apparently had been tidying up, although still denies he put them there.
He puts dirty plates, dishes etc, back In the cupboards.
Recently showing some family photos to a friend he 3 times said his grandson was his stepson.
The tv remote is a no go, it has been explained so many times, that I have given up.
He has also recently paid somebody twice for the same thing, no recollection of paying the first time.
He does at times get frustrated with his poor memory and at these times I do try to kindly suggest that he visits the GP, but he never will.
It seems very petty now, writing these things, but I'm wondering if this is normal for old age, or if there could be a risk of being dementia. Also whether I should share these concerns with his family.
Please don't think of me as a bad person for having these concerns and I am not being picky, but am generally concerned with his wellbeing. And general safety in the house, ie, leaving gas burning
Thank you for reading/listening :
Tily