Louise
I did need to complain to my mum's care home about her allegation that she had been "pushed to the ground" by a care worker. I have to say that the manager took the allegation very seriously. Mum was confused about when it occurred, she said a fortnight earlier, but we eventually concluded that it had been the previous night. She was able to name one of the care workers involved (there were two) and when asked for his report he immediately gave a description of the event which tied up exactly with the description given by the other care worker, and the manager contacted them both at the same time to avoid any possible collusion of stories. The incident HAD been recorded in the incident book, but the manager had not been made aware of it, a fact which she has now insisted that all staff should report in future. I did feel she investigated thoroughly, she is proud of her home, at no point did she insinuate that my mum might be wrong in her accusation.
I didn't put my complaint in writing, but I got a full reply in writing, and am happy with the outcome. The two staff were apparently trying to convince my mum to go back to bed at 1 a.m. and their physical guidance was a bit too strenuous it would seem. I am certain there was no malice intended. But they have now been advised that if it happens again (as it will) they are to let her stay up for an hour or so before persuading her to return to her bed.
Most care homes are careful to investigate complaints fully and document the outcomes. Do not feel that you should not complain. Give the management the opportunity to investigate, and then you have to weigh up the outcome. With my mum, I couldn't really have insisted that she was pushed to the floor deliberately, but the fact that it has been reported and investigated reassures me that it will not happen again (if indeed it did in the first place).
Be brave. You have to do what you need to do.
Love
Margaret