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Recommended thread Compassionate Communication with the Memory Impaired

Discussion in 'Health and wellbeing' started by Grannie G, Jan 24, 2011.

  1. Mum1945

    Mum1945 Registered User

    Oct 17, 2017
    10
    Thank you @Amy in the US. I really will try. I think the fact that the doctor visit went so wrong today has made me feel so guilty. But I hate the idea that if she accepted help, she might improve a little, but because she won't, there's so little we can do.

    What a horrendous disease.
     
  2. Amy in the US

    Amy in the US Registered User

    Feb 28, 2015
    3,127
    USA
    @Mum1945 , I'm going to comment over on your other thread, so as not to hijack this one further.
     
  3. MaryH

    MaryH Registered User

    Jun 16, 2016
    114
    Ottawa, Canada
    okay.. The link on page 1 does not work but have email the compassionate communication to myself. Being trained as an engineer, more on factual but they are in the don'ts..
     
  4. elkmaster

    elkmaster New member

    Dec 22, 2017
    1
    This is very helpful indeed. Me, the son and my mother's partner have made a lot of these mistakes...we have not meant to!
    I am gonna print this off and hopefully change the way we communicate with my mum. She and her partner are always arguing and he always seems to start a sentence with a question and rambles on...they are both 80s.
    I have tried talking to him gently about it and he says 'yeah yeah', but might not be able to change behaviour/adapt.
    I get frustrated when I hear it but can't say much as it would cause a row and he would say I was bullying him.
    My Mum says hurtful things sometimes and hard not to take it personally but most of the time I don't.
    Will try the above cues/techniques to stear the conversation to another topic.
    I am glad of this forum as want my mum to be in as much peace as possible throughout this dreadful illness.
    Kind regards
    elkmaster
     
  5. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    64,743
    Kent
    Hello @elkmaster Welcome to the forum.

    I'm pleased you've found something to help . Even though it will be difficult to follow at all times it is still good advice.

    I think we sometimes realise how inappropriate attitudes are when we hear them from others rather than ourselves. It is a very steep learning curve and some of us only realise when it is too late.

    Please start your own thread if you wish , on the sub forum I care for a person with dementia.

    https://forum.alzheimers.org.uk/forums/i-care-for-a-person-with-dementia.70/

    This way you will find it easy to access all your replies and support.
     
  6. JanP

    JanP New member

    Nov 22, 2017
    9
    Thankyou for sharing
     
  7. PJ

    PJ Registered User

    Jan 26, 2017
    30
    I imagine most of us do the ‘Dont’s’ please don’t feel bad xx
     

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