Hello. My father has been placed in a care home by his wife (not my mother) despite both my sister & I offering support to allow him to stay in his home. His wife has also ensured that she has lpoa for dad's finances, though hasn't bothered with health & welfare. Dad currently has 'fluctuating capacity ' & is very aware that he is not at home- wanting to go home every evening & becoming extremely depressed. The biggest issue is that the care home state that his wife is next of kin & they refuse to contact or discuss anything with my sister or me, saying that they will only contact one person. Dad's wife refuses to communicate with us & also does not allow dad access to money ( a direct request for spending money for a weekend with us, our children & grandchildren resulted in £20 being left in an envelope!). The care home seem to have kowtowed to his wife's wishes, rather than dad's best interests, & we are not being involved in any meetings or discussions about care, medication changed or general wellbeing. Does anybody know whether there is a way to challenge this situation to ensure that it is dad's best interests that are being met, and that we are included in discussions relating to our father's health, wellbeing & happiness? We're extremely concerned that decisions are being made which are not in his best interests. Any support or information would be welcomed. Thanks.