My mum is in a nursing home and I live locally to her while my sister lives some way away. I have mental health issues that mean I’m too ill to work and I can’t see mum as much as I would like. Mum has lost all mobility and has to be hoisted which obviously I’m not keen on having this done to her when I’m visiting. But the lounge where she’s seated can be a problem too depending on what kind of day the other PWD have. I try and joke a bit with treating it like the Twilight Zone as sometimes other residents accuse me of wearing their jumper or having stolen from them and grab my bag and go through it. Mum now has a tendency to tell any male Carers that they can have me if they want ♀️ My sister seems to think I’ve got lots of time on my hands when the reality is that I’m too ill to work or have a “normal” life. Her partner has told me that as my sister’s very stressed we should all do everything she wants us to do. She has support from her partner and her two daughters whereas I’m single and the only close family member near me is my mum ... who has dementia. I’m now starting to look after myself and may in fact soon be allocated my own mental health support worker as there’s a new system that’s started up and taking referrals. Sorry for the war and peace post, but is there anyone else going through something similar?