Hi my aunt is proving quiet hard to help, she has mixed dementia and is seen every 9 months by the consultant, things have definitely changed over the last 6 months for the worse .She has now taken to wearing the same blouse (possible everything) for days. sometimes I find her with her winter coat on and the heating's on, even when I go over and say' you wore that yesterday' shall we get a nice fresh one, she will not go and change, these blouses were brought circa 1970, there thread bare, she has turned the cuffs and collars round and need replacing I tried to make light of it and suggest days out to go clothes shopping, we have now had three such outings working up from local shops to the city and then bluewater, where she shuffles along and on entering a store looks straight ahead with me lifting up things saying this is the right collar, colour, cuffs etc. she dismisses it every time if we get to a point to try them on( which gets me excited) as soon as one arm goes in she throws it off saying the arms don't fit right ! I've ordered some bits on line when I've taken them round she has actually cried reducing us both to the pits of despair. She always says she sorry which of course is sad in itself, my lovely aunt always took care of herself but she's looking worn now and sometimes I hate to say, smells. we don't live with her but between my brother and I and a little outside help she is seen 4 or 5 times a week we are 10 mins way and we phone each other numerous times. Laughter seems to work we laugh at silly things together , but I don't want to hurt her feelings. sometimes we play good cop, bad cop between my brother and I getting her to accept some help or advice as this wicked illness progresses I find she is consistently in my thoughts but this latest problem is proving very difficult. I've even suggested having them made but she said no. I understand its all about change, routine and I want her to feel comfortable etc. do I just buy them and put them in her wardrobe ???? any advice warmly received