another thing happened recently. I'm wondering if others have experienced it and how best you've coped with it. ok, so my friend says he needs a new shirt, but to get the next size down as the size he has is too baggy. So I tell him I've found one the next size down, its got good reviews and I've ordered and paid for it and its coming very soon. He seemed ok about it. But when I got home tonight he phoned me and he was sooooooooooo angry (again). he had a right go at me saying he did not want the shirt I'd ordered and that I should get the size he already has. I probably handled this all wrong but I said I'd already paid for it and its on its way, so why not just try it on and if it didn't fit then---- ---at that point he went ballistic and got even more angry saying it wouldn't fit and he knows it won't fit, he was so angry with me. so I said I'd speak to him when he'd calmed down and ended the call, as I couldn't handle his awful mood swing aimed once again at me. my phone is off the hook tonight, rightly or wrongly. I can't cope with this... This has happened before. got some gloves he wanted. he told me what size to get, I got them, but when I took them to him he went into one saying to take them back as they wouldn't fit and he knows they won't fit. on that occasion I managed to gently persuade him to just try them on and they could be taken back if they didn't fit. He was so angry, but they fitted perfectly. I can't deal with his anger, and mood swings, and having a go at me, and irrationality. its very difficult. The thought of saying that from now on he should ask carers to get his clothes for him, is something I might now have to do even though he'd probably take it the wrong way. phew.... thanks for listening.