1. Mudgee Joy

    Mudgee Joy Registered User

    Dec 26, 2017
    665
    Female
    New South Wales Australia
    Dear @May30 - my thoughts are -
    any chance you could get the carer / showerer to come in the afternoon. ! Better to go to sleep dry !
    There are products for helping keep the UT clear - powders that you put into a drink. Ural is the brand here in Oz.
    But also try to Reduce Liquids in the evenings.
    I am scared of UTI as they cause delerium in my husband - I have anti biotics on hand in case !! All the best M-joy .
     
  2. john1939

    john1939 Registered User

    Sep 21, 2017
    148
    Male
    Newtownabbey
    My wife has a problem with personal hygene, she just does not do any. I enlisted help from my two daughters a few days ago. They came to the house and announced to my wife that her GP was coming to give her a full examination. No ifs or buts. They marched her into the bathroom and watched as she got into the shower.
    Clean clothes were then provided. Later she was taken to the hairdresser for a wash and cut. She totally forgot about the GP visit fiction.
    I suggested that she should take a shower once a week but was met with a barrage of abuse, so my daughters will be handling the showering event. from now on.
     
  3. rhubarbtree

    rhubarbtree Registered User

    Jan 7, 2015
    475
    North West
    Well done those daughters. Family all singing from same sheet. That's the way to go.
     
  4. Rolypoly

    Rolypoly Registered User

    Jan 15, 2018
    2,319
    What team work. Well done family @john1939 .
     
  5. Mudgee Joy

    Mudgee Joy Registered User

    Dec 26, 2017
    665
    Female
    New South Wales Australia
    My OH will always clean and shower for a visit to the doctor!!.:D
    Only problem is if I tell him the day before he wants to get ready in the middle of the night !
    For that reason I try not to tell him anything about tomorrow- next week is ok.
    Just it’s great that yout daughters are helping !! You can have a specialist appointment every week !!! All the best M-Joy
     
  6. Sally Jones

    Sally Jones Registered User

    Jan 6, 2016
    3
    I have a similar problem.
    I have duplicates of many of his clothes.
    I remove the dirty ones as he takes them off and replace them with the identical clean ones that he then wears.
     
  7. Nanawendy6

    Nanawendy6 Registered User

    Sep 17, 2014
    62
    6 months ago I could leave clean clothes on his bed and he’d put dirty clothes in basket. Important as he hasn’t showered nearly a year. Then I was taking dirty clothes out when he was asleep. He then started to take trousers to bed with him which meant I had to pull them from under him and hope he didn’t wake. Last week he started to go to bed in day fully dressed. Four days ago he refused to undress at all. Turned up heating very high last night hoping if room was really warm he’d put on pjs but no luck just gripped clothes and sheet tighter and glared at me. I’ll keep trying but it’s another challenge.
     
  8. Chrismitch

    Chrismitch Registered User

    Jun 23, 2011
    127
    My OH would put clean clothes on ok but I kept having to throw away pillows. They were black even though he showered himself every day. So one day I observed. He never washed his neck, ever. So from then on I stayed in the bathroom chatting to him and I prompted him to wash each bit of his body after another. That worked well for a long time until he was unable to understand when I asked him to turn or wash the other ear, then I did it for him, until he got stroppy ..... it’s all about adapting to their changing needs.
     
  9. Nanawendy6

    Nanawendy6 Registered User

    Sep 17, 2014
    62
    Had a tiny success this morning. Thought I’d see if Mudgee Joys way works but substituted coffee shop. Persuaded husband to change his jumper not exactly happy but he allowed me to help him take it off. Told him we couldn’t go out for cake until he changed his jumper - took a few repetitions but then he did it. Tried trousers too absolutely no luck . Just walked past me put his coat and shoes on. Left him watching television for an hour and a half this afternoon when I came back he was sitting in a shirt. So doesn’t like the jumper!
     
  10. Mudgee Joy

    Mudgee Joy Registered User

    Dec 26, 2017
    665
    Female
    New South Wales Australia
    Each and everyone may have a different preferred activity !! So it’s good to try different options.
    I think ready some of the other carers replies makes me a little anxious as to what the future holds :confused:
    It really is a roller coaster - sometimes their failing memory is as asset !! When I loose it and he doesn’t seem recall my very bad manners :D
    A V e r y L o n g J o u r n e y
     
  11. Grahamstown

    Grahamstown Registered User

    Jan 12, 2018
    1,558
    East of England
    Since my last update on this thread, I have bought a fluffy cotton baby blanket navy with white stars on it so not too baby like. He absolutely loves it and has it tuck round his neck every night. I can see that it will be great when we go away, not that we go very often now, because he always complains about the bedding.
     
  12. GeG-Canada

    GeG-Canada Registered User

    Feb 4, 2018
    33
    Female
    BC Canada
    that is what I've had to do today, go and buy the exact article of clothing he likes.

    He wouldn't let me 'wash' the ones he was wearing, because he was wearing them!

    We had a 'new clothes' shopping trip. He quite enjoyed it .
     
  13. Mudgee Joy

    Mudgee Joy Registered User

    Dec 26, 2017
    665
    Female
    New South Wales Australia
    My husband is very attached to the new kids yellow toothbrush that I bought him - I think it’s supposed to be a duck. o_O
    It’s great - as he has stopped taking my toothbrush - it rather suggests that bright unusual items can get noticed and can get attached to ... I will keep my eyes open for a really fun blanket !! :p Maybe a crazy pillow case . X
     

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