Dear @May30 - my thoughts are - any chance you could get the carer / showerer to come in the afternoon. ! Better to go to sleep dry ! There are products for helping keep the UT clear - powders that you put into a drink. Ural is the brand here in Oz. But also try to Reduce Liquids in the evenings. I am scared of UTI as they cause delerium in my husband - I have anti biotics on hand in case !! All the best M-joy .