Hi. Having read all your messages, I've come to the conclusion that there is no simple answer. My wife can't look after herself in the bathing department. She won't let me help and insists on washing herself. This means two inches of hot water in the bath , places one foot into the water, then out and dries herself with the warm towel which I've left on the radiator. Then gets dressed with a mixture of clean and dirty clothes. Then for the next hour or so I get nothing but shouting about not letting the carer into the house, she doesn't need them, she can look after herself. Then the carer arrives. She asks my wife, would you like to have a bath this morning, oh, yes, I'll go and get undressed. Great, while she's being washed I'm tasked with sorting clean from dirty. It can't be done, so its all taken for washing. So then it's more clean clothes, oh yes, and that rather aromatic bath towel too. My answer to the problem is to have a good supply of easy to wash and dry clothes, she had four layers on today, i actually thought she was gaining weight. And a good supply of washing powder and lot of fabric conditioner. Not to mention a liberal amount of patience. Al.