Just wondering if the stress of Christmas impacts on people with dementia and makes the symptoms twice as bad? I usually visit mum on a weekly basis but this week my mother has phoned all our relatives to say she doesn't want me there -I am only going down for her money, I can't cook, I steal, I try and harm her, pretty much everything evil you can think of. I sort of coped with this (it's been like this for 18 months). but when she started slandering my husband and son I thought enough us enough and agreed to stay away Xmas day. This was what she wanted after all. All the food had already been bought and placed in her freezer so I ran around buying food for a quiet Xmas at home. I have just received a call from her to say "when you come down tomorrow, could you bring some veg". When I explained that I wasn't coming and that my brother was sorting out lunch she couldn't believe it and denied any of the previous week's shenanigans. She was really upset and wondered if I could change my mind and help her?? Not a day goes by when she doesn't upset the whole family. It feels like 'mind games'. Not sure I can put up with much more of this.