Hi Everyone,
I am hoping for some advice again! I think it has come to the time for me to look at full time care for my Dad. He lives alone and I am struggling to give him enoughtime. I see him nearly every day. Occsionally I don't get to see him but do ring him several times a day.
He has been deteriorating since Xmas. Last week he had a chest infection and was needing Antibiotics three times a day. I went in to give him these and on one occasion at 4 in the morning. I have got a chest infection now too! (always good to share!) I managed to get some extra help from my Brother but it all just seems too much to cope with now.
I called the GP this morning to ask for a visit as I felt that he might still have an infection. The GP who called me said I should of called earlier in the day! (I didn't bother telling him I was getting my partners Grandma up and waiting for the District Nurse to call before I could get to Dad) So he prescribed some more antibiotics over the phone. Another week of early visits.
I just don't feel that I can maintain the right level of care that he needs and deserves now.
So my question is How do I start to find the right home? I am finding this the most scary thing I have had to face yet. I have been on the internet but there are so many. Where do you start?
I would appreciate any advice on how other people have found their loved ones a care home.
How do I talk to Dad about it? When I tried to talk about this with him before he said he didn't want to as he wanted to keep his dog with him.
Sorry I am rambling now, just don't know where to go next.
P.S
Forgot to say, my sister went to see Dad at teatime for me today and he kept telling her he wanted to go home. This is new and is worrying me to death.
I am hoping for some advice again! I think it has come to the time for me to look at full time care for my Dad. He lives alone and I am struggling to give him enoughtime. I see him nearly every day. Occsionally I don't get to see him but do ring him several times a day.
He has been deteriorating since Xmas. Last week he had a chest infection and was needing Antibiotics three times a day. I went in to give him these and on one occasion at 4 in the morning. I have got a chest infection now too! (always good to share!) I managed to get some extra help from my Brother but it all just seems too much to cope with now.
I called the GP this morning to ask for a visit as I felt that he might still have an infection. The GP who called me said I should of called earlier in the day! (I didn't bother telling him I was getting my partners Grandma up and waiting for the District Nurse to call before I could get to Dad) So he prescribed some more antibiotics over the phone. Another week of early visits.
I just don't feel that I can maintain the right level of care that he needs and deserves now.
So my question is How do I start to find the right home? I am finding this the most scary thing I have had to face yet. I have been on the internet but there are so many. Where do you start?
I would appreciate any advice on how other people have found their loved ones a care home.
How do I talk to Dad about it? When I tried to talk about this with him before he said he didn't want to as he wanted to keep his dog with him.
Sorry I am rambling now, just don't know where to go next.
P.S
Forgot to say, my sister went to see Dad at teatime for me today and he kept telling her he wanted to go home. This is new and is worrying me to death.
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