Mom-in-law suffers from Dementia and Alzheimer's and has been residing happily in a housing association appartment and benefits from regular short visits throughout the day from staff. However her deteriorating condition has resulted in an assessment that she now needs full-time supervision in an EMI care home. She has been offered a place in a local EMI home by our local social services and my wife and I visited it today to assess prior to accepting. This was our first experience of visiting such a facility and we found it a shock to the system and quite a distressing experience. Is this a common reaction? On reporting back our reaction diplomatically to social services they were sympathetic, but said it was the only 'funded' place available and likely to be the only place in the foreseeable future. My wife is desperately upset about the prospect of having to make a decision between sending her mother to a home that is so depressing and staying in the appartment she currently lives in but is no longer suitable for her. Has anyone any helpful advice, please?