Will try and keep this brief but apologies if I fail. Mum (82) admitted hospital mid October with severe infection after Dad unable to wake her. Up until then mild dementia for last 3-4 years. Coping perfectly well at home, Dad doing all the household stuff. Became immobile and incontinent literally overnight. Memory and confusion also suffered big hit. Transferred to nursing home just before Christmas. SW put case before panel on 18 December, expecting Mum would be awarded CHC. (The same SW who asked for a meeting knowing I live 200 miles away and then didn't turn up as she was off sick but hadn't told anyone. Meanwhile I spend over £100 on train fare, 8 hours travelling and OH rearranged work meeting so could work from home. All week had tried to contact her to confirm grrrrr). Poor Dad (84) has been checking post and answerphone every day, has letter got lost in Christmas post? Panel on holiday? Tried contacting SW again, heard nothing until last Friday (almost 2 months) when she phoned to say decision had been deferred as panel needed more information and would go to panel again Wednesday. Mum is completely reliant on carers for absolutely every aspect of daily living. She has to be hoisted every time. Unable to sit up on her own let along stand. She has AMD, no interest in TV, radio, activities etc (she can't turn the TV on anyway and doesn't always know what it is). She is also not eating and has lost a considerable amount of weight. Soon she will be too frail to move out of bed. She is depressed, wants to go home, says she wants to die. She still knows who family and friends are and is passive with no challenging behaviour. SW's only comment was she's not in pain. Well if she was she would forget and probably couldn't articulate it. She grimaces every time she is hoisted, uncomfortable in wheelchair as so thin now. The only bright spot for her is the almost daily visit by Dad who refuses to leave her and stay with me for a break. So my question is, should I appeal? Dad obviously doesn't want the hassle. She has now been awarded the nursing element. It will be reviewed again in 3 months but seriously how much worse does it have to be? She is self funding, we don't have POA (she agreed to us doing it the week before she became ill so now going down COP route). Thank you for reading, any advice much appreciated.