@Woo2 @Blossom50 It would appear that I won't have the choice to move him anyway. He is on the waiting list at a CH 45 minutes from here, but it's in a different health board area. (I'm in NZ). I rang them this morning to ask how far down the waiting list he is and was told because he would have to be transferred from a different area, those locally would get first choice. There are 28 people waiting for a DC RH, so it looks like that option is out. There is local one, but the dementia wing is so small with a very small outdoor area and needs a complete make-over, that I wouldn't put my worst enemy in there. They are not keen to have him back either after he punched a caregiver there in July while on respite. They would insist on a psychogeriatric assessment which to me seems to be a waste of time. If he needed permanent hospital care, then I would transfer him to the local RH, but not before that. Because we have to apply for a residential care subsidy I can't even rent our home out to pay for the rent in the town he's in, so there's no way I can see him more frequently. I feel he is already going downhill and I am an emotional wreck.