Hi, This is the first time I have posted to this forum , but I have been an occasional visitor over the last 2 years since Mum(73) was diagnosed with vascular dementia in 2005 , and have found the forum to be tremendous support. Mum has been in residential care since August 2005, I live 2 hours away and I am her main visitor, I visit every Saturday to take her out for a change of scenery; it is still possible to take her out for tea, shopping, and visits to the garden centre but I am not sure for how much longer this will be possible. She is in a care home not too far from where she used to live - part of the reason was so that she would recognise the places when we go out, and so that her friends could still visit. As the VaDe has progressed she now has very little or no recognition of the places we go, though sometimes she does say "I've been here before" - sometimes I think she says it to fill the gaps in conversation! She has become very adept at making up stories to fill the blank holes in her memory with things that sound very plausible! Visits from her friends seem to have reduced, probably because although Mum still loves to talk it is quite difficult to make much sense of what she is saying and I think this makes it difficult for some of her friends. I am very happy with the care provided, and Mum seems to be quite well settled and has some friends in the care home that she spends most of her time with. I have found a care home between where I work (full-time) and where I live and which has places and will take her if I give the go ahead. I would be able to call in and see her on my way home from work , and would be able to attend any of the social events / relatives meetings etc , and perhaps a bit selfish - but I might be able to get the odd weekend off if I were able to visit during the week. I have huge reservations about moving her from where she is currently quite settled, and was wondering if any other members had been through a similar process and what the outcomes good or bad were.