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Challenging behaviour

Stick

New member
Sep 29, 2020
1
Any advice on handling "strops" in a lady with Dementia. She sits down and refuses to move and he answer to every question is "No". A general defiance.
 

Grannie G

Volunteer Moderator
Apr 3, 2006
71,961
Kent
Any advice on handling "strops" in a lady with Dementia. She sits down and refuses to move and he answer to every question is "No". A general defiance.
Hello Stick and welcome to Dementia Talking Point.

I found the more I questioned and tried to reason the more difficult I made it for myself. Is it possible your lady with dementia either doesn`t know why you want her to do what you want or doesn`t understand why she should?

This may help;

 

canary

Registered User
Feb 25, 2014
13,652
South coast
Unfortunately, the default answer from someone with dementia is almost always "no". Trying to reason with them just makes it worse - logic is not your friend when dealing with dementia.

Usually they answer "no" because they dont understand what they are being asked to do, they dont understand why they have to do it, or they dont remember how to do it, so its much easier to just refuse. So you will have to use your powers of persuasion. If its something like getting them to wash or change their clothes then there are various techniques which might help (like "accidentally" tipping cold coffee down them). If its something like getting them to go to the doctors it much easier not to tell them in advance and just treat it like a "done deal", or else get them out with the promise of tea and cake (often works wonders).

If you could elaborate a bit about what she is refusing to do, Im sure members will come up with some ploys that have worked.