I bumped into a friend a few days ago and she was in a bit of a state. Think she's a bit younger than me and still works. Her husband has Parkinson's and it's getting worse leaving her with a very difficult personal situation and making her wonder how long she'll be able to live with him. In short, his 95 year old mother is in a care home and he pays £200 a week top up fees so is desperate to stay at work for as long as possible. I've been doing a bit of research and will pass the information on to her, the best case scenario is that the CH will keep mum even if the top up fees have to stop but in the meanwhile she is living in a situation where her husband is becoming increasingly abusive and paranoid and she has to ring the specialist Parkinson's nurse in secret. DON'T ever agree to pay a top up fee.