Dear all. My mum has vascular dementia, it seems to be advancing quite quickly. She is currently in hospital, she's had a rectal prolapse, they apparently cannot operate on this due to her muscle tone/quality. We have also been told that she will have a catheter permanently from now on so will need care 4 x a day to change it etc. She currently has carers at home 2x a day. We are worried - last time she was discharged from hospital she had a temporary catheter and managed to remove it twice before it was removed permanently as she just didn't recall what it was there for. She fiddled constantly with it as well so it leaked etc too. Any experience or advice? The hospital have just advised that she'll need to go into a care home if it doesn't work out which seems a bit extreme. Also we are worried about the cost of 4x a day care (she is self funding). It doesn't seem right that if she needs this care for a medical issue that she has to pay! I would greatly appreciate any advice.