Hi - I've been off the radar a bit, but lots going on. Truly humbled by a lot of comments I have read - we all do a grand job! My Nan's started on the Aricept which has been so far, been hit and miss - same with her other medication, find loads of loose pills. It's in a medi-pak and the carer comes in the morning to prompt the breakfast ones (and now chuck any loose ones or ones left over) Of course the last resort is locking them all away, but am not prepared to go that route yet, besides the way I see it is that the breakfast pills are the most essential, the others (pain killer, anti immflammatory) not so essential. The personal care - still not letting carers assist, I've gone in the last few Sunday mornings and persuaded her to have a bath and then let carer take over when they turn up (has a bathlift) -realise carers cannot make her if she declines - difficult to crack this one!! Anyway if I didn't she'd spend days in the same pair of knickers and vest!!! Oh and interchanges her clothes without washing them!! I've been ruthless and washed anything that smelt of stale perspiration or fusty. As you know it's hard work, but she's clean and fragrant - I am hopeful she'll let the carer assist eventually, especially once we get some bubbly bath in 'Lily of the Valley' (along with Avon's Timeless, her favourite fragrances - aromatherapy?) On a positive note I now have Enduring power of Attorney duly registered and have an appointment with Nan's bank, also the Council as she now entitled to receive Full Council Tax Benefit (interestly - if you don't know - if someone has over £16K, gets AA and gets guarantee credit, they are entitled to Council Tax Benefit and I thought £16K was a ceiling, well it is in all other cases - Even I'm flummaxed by the benefits minefield!) Not heard a dickie from Uncle in Canada lately and my Aunt is coming down as she normally does at Nan's birthday - miffed as I don't get asked, "hows mum these days?" and my Aunt surprised that she's lost weight - er, which part of she's self neglecting and not bothering to eat properly/enough are you having difficulty understanding!!! TAKEN FOREGRANTED is how I feel at times. Do any of you feel the same in your roles? Enough of my rant. Postive note, Nan's physio appointment went well, she was very cheerful and managed and enjoyed a shopping trip to ASDA.