Yesterday another of Mum and Dad's cats became very ill, the future doesn't look good (another died earlier this year).
Dad and I aren't too sure of Mum's reaction to this, Dad didn't think she seemed overly bothered. However, she had him up during the night and was very upset but couldn't explain why, he spend time trying to calm her down, which he eventually did.
Today she became upset again, continually asking for her friend (who she sees on a Thursday), telling Dad she can't tell him about it, she can only speak to her. Now Dad is worried about the cat (who incidentally, will be back at the vet on Thursday) and thinks Mum is on a serious decline. I wonder if anyone has experienced anything similar, he said she was laughing and giggling inappropriatlely in the vets and seems to forget the cat is so ill (not at all the way she would have been before as she was as much an animal lover as Dad and I).
I thought it might just be her reaction to the cat being so ill, somewhere in her head it is upsetting her, even if she doesn't appear to be in the 'normal' way, rather than a 'decline'.
I'm trying to reassure him that it's probably because of the cat. He's so stressed with money worries, cat, Mum and everything else I feel that he's at breaking point. I'm trying to give him money and pay the vet bill (all of which he insists is a loan), I just want him to take it and forget about it, at least to try to ease one worry. He's insistant on giving me money back that I gave him over that last few months too. I don't want it, I'm trying to help, not add to his worries.
This has turned into 2 posts I think, one about making Dad take my money and about Mum.....anyway, if anyone has any ideas on either, they'd be gratefully received
Mandy
Dad and I aren't too sure of Mum's reaction to this, Dad didn't think she seemed overly bothered. However, she had him up during the night and was very upset but couldn't explain why, he spend time trying to calm her down, which he eventually did.
Today she became upset again, continually asking for her friend (who she sees on a Thursday), telling Dad she can't tell him about it, she can only speak to her. Now Dad is worried about the cat (who incidentally, will be back at the vet on Thursday) and thinks Mum is on a serious decline. I wonder if anyone has experienced anything similar, he said she was laughing and giggling inappropriatlely in the vets and seems to forget the cat is so ill (not at all the way she would have been before as she was as much an animal lover as Dad and I).
I thought it might just be her reaction to the cat being so ill, somewhere in her head it is upsetting her, even if she doesn't appear to be in the 'normal' way, rather than a 'decline'.
I'm trying to reassure him that it's probably because of the cat. He's so stressed with money worries, cat, Mum and everything else I feel that he's at breaking point. I'm trying to give him money and pay the vet bill (all of which he insists is a loan), I just want him to take it and forget about it, at least to try to ease one worry. He's insistant on giving me money back that I gave him over that last few months too. I don't want it, I'm trying to help, not add to his worries.
This has turned into 2 posts I think, one about making Dad take my money and about Mum.....anyway, if anyone has any ideas on either, they'd be gratefully received
Mandy
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