Oh dear, I didn't know it was going to be a Case Conference, thought it was just a routine chat with the consultant, but no, a full-blown job. Mum was not allowed in, which she was not happy about, but accepted cos she is an very accepting lady - normally.
Anyway, hubby and I were told that mum was not likely ever to go home again, she was a danger to herself, had continued to display the same problems in the hospital as those that had caused her to be admitted, ie. confusing day and night and hence going out at night.
So we are now to find a care home for her. End of meeting. But I said, mum is anxious to see you, (to the psychiatrist). Oh I have no need to see her. Yes, but mum wants to see you. Mum was outside the door, desperate to get in. In she came. Oh I am glad I have seen you at last, I have been in here a month and not seen you (not true) and I want to know when I can go home. Hmm, says the psychatrist, that is not likely for a while yet. Why not? I am no different from when I came in, so why can't I go home. Well, that is the point, you came in because you were very confused and you are no different, so you need to stay with us. No, I don't. I wasn't confused and I'm not confused, you are making it up. People at home have been lying about me going out at night, I don't go out at night, I have nowhere to go at night, why would I go out? and I have been fine while I have been in here. Hmm, says the consultant, but we have records that you have been getting up and dressed at 3 a.m. So what, says mum, I can get up whenever I want, it doesn't bother you. No, but if you were at home you would be going out then. No I wouldn't, I don't do that.
Then, okay if you are worried about me, my daughter can come and lock me in at night and let me out the next day. Well, I suppose I could. Or someone else could - has anyone tried that arrangement? I am not doing it myself!
The Psychiatrist resisted and it almost became a battle. I don't know who has been telling you I have being going out at night, but they are lying. I don't go out at night. I want to go home. I need to go home, there are things I need to see to, like cleaning, and I need to get my pension. There is four weeks pension I need to get. If you won't let me home I wish to discharge myself NOW.
n summary, she was not impressed with the fot going home.
Help! what do I do now?
Anyway, hubby and I were told that mum was not likely ever to go home again, she was a danger to herself, had continued to display the same problems in the hospital as those that had caused her to be admitted, ie. confusing day and night and hence going out at night.
So we are now to find a care home for her. End of meeting. But I said, mum is anxious to see you, (to the psychiatrist). Oh I have no need to see her. Yes, but mum wants to see you. Mum was outside the door, desperate to get in. In she came. Oh I am glad I have seen you at last, I have been in here a month and not seen you (not true) and I want to know when I can go home. Hmm, says the psychatrist, that is not likely for a while yet. Why not? I am no different from when I came in, so why can't I go home. Well, that is the point, you came in because you were very confused and you are no different, so you need to stay with us. No, I don't. I wasn't confused and I'm not confused, you are making it up. People at home have been lying about me going out at night, I don't go out at night, I have nowhere to go at night, why would I go out? and I have been fine while I have been in here. Hmm, says the consultant, but we have records that you have been getting up and dressed at 3 a.m. So what, says mum, I can get up whenever I want, it doesn't bother you. No, but if you were at home you would be going out then. No I wouldn't, I don't do that.
Then, okay if you are worried about me, my daughter can come and lock me in at night and let me out the next day. Well, I suppose I could. Or someone else could - has anyone tried that arrangement? I am not doing it myself!
The Psychiatrist resisted and it almost became a battle. I don't know who has been telling you I have being going out at night, but they are lying. I don't go out at night. I want to go home. I need to go home, there are things I need to see to, like cleaning, and I need to get my pension. There is four weeks pension I need to get. If you won't let me home I wish to discharge myself NOW.
n summary, she was not impressed with the fot going home.
Help! what do I do now?