Having written a message already I will start again. The visit went ok at the home yesterday with social worker and Senior manger. They said David had been difficult the last few days. Was quite violent and wouldn't allow personal care. Meaning they had to use a bit of force to get his bottom changed as it couldn't be left. I understand that. They can leave a lot of things but not that. He has also been trying to escape out of the fire escape door and needed a lot of talking down. And he keeps going into other residents rooms. Which is difficult as the ones in their rooms are very poorly. Also he is not eating well and not drinking enough. I visited him after the meeting and he was still in bed but had been changed down below. He then went back to bed. I finally got him out of bed and washed him. He cleaned his teeth (after i showed him where his mouth is,) and then we sat for a while. But he didn't seem to know it was me although i had managed to get him sorted. So then he kept walking off and i noticed that he had one to one care following him and watching him. so not so bad except I thought he had gone a bit backwards to what he was like the first week. Today i phoned and the carer said he was sitting in the lounge watching a film.!! So very unpredictable at the moment.xxxI do hope that today's planned visit was a good one for you both Casbow x
Better visit today. He was really calm and and lovely. Away with the fairies. But i can cope with that.He was wearing clothes that were not his. And no slippers. I asked a member of staff if they could find some of his clothes in the laundry. He has 5 pairs of trousers and 5 shirts so there should be some in his wardrobe. Anyway back this chap came with 3 of each saying sorry but the laundry was short staffed. I used to work in care home and have visited the laundry a lot of times to find a residents clothes. Why could someone have not done that. Anyway no shoes. Probably been taken by another confused resident. His name is in them so I suppose they will turn up. In the meantime I will take some more in. I hope you all had a nice day.xxxThinking if you. Love and hugs M xxx
I'm doing ok thank you. I feel very emotional over anything an everything. But I am feeling fairly ok and look forward to my visits to see him even if they are not always good. Today when I said I love you do you love me me, he said 'of course I do.' Thats good enough for me.xxxxSo glad to hear things were better. I suppose there are bound to be off days. And how are you, Casbow?
Had a good visit for his birthday. My friend came with me and the home made a birthday cake. but i was upset be because neither of our sons sent him a card. I e mailed them both the same e mail at the same time and once again have now fallen out with youngest son. Eldest has not replied but he is on holiday possibily with no signal. Youngest son has told me in no uncertain terms that he doesn't do cards and never has and whats the point anyway. Usually his lovely wife does all that stuff and not him. He has already said that he won't visit his dad. I feel that I just can't deal with my youngest son anymore. He seems so unkind. So couldn't care less. So sod you mum get on with it. He suffers with serious depression but I cannot come to terms with that being a good enough reason to treat his dad as already dead. So desperately sad and upset. How much more misery is there.xHello Lilac Blossom. I am happy to share my diary with you. My husband has only been in nursing home for 2 weeks and four days. It is i think going ok. Difficult, as he is different each time when i visit. Its his birthday tomorrow and a friend is visiting with me. Fingers crossed all will be ok. It is very hard to come home alone and feeling like maybe I could have gone on a bit longer.The guilt will never go away. I did my best for 10 years but it wasn't enough. I think about him all the time. Wondering if he is happy in his own little world or angry and restless and pacing about. But I cannot know can I.?!!!xxx
This is exactly how my brother comes across in total. I know he is ill but that isn't my fault, and ultimately he has always been very self centred and it isn't nice.He seems so unkind. So couldn't care less. So sod you mum get on with it.