Hi, I'm new to this. I'm a Carer for my Father who lives 90 miles away. He is physically fragile (prostate cancer that has metastasised to his spine and asthma) and he has dementia. He has virtually no short term memory, gets muddled and cannot assimilate new information. He lives alone but my sister, who is his main Carer lives 1/2 mile down the road. My Dad can no longer cook food for himself and most days my sister brings him a hot meal (along with doing everything else in his life and the many doctors/hospital appointments. I visit for a day or two every fortnight to give her a break but she is finding it very difficult to cope fir two reasons - the amount of time he needs and his utter resistance and the upset at every attempt to help him. He is in total denial and believes he can do everything - which very clearly he cannot. He spends a lot of time sleeping and is always weary. We have tried to use a (very good) care company to come in and help him with meals, but he has refused to let them in and been very angry about it. He has recently had a chest infection and we've come to crisis point where, somehow, we've got to get support from the care company .... but we are so afraid it will be a disaster again. He really needs help now. Has anyone had any similar experiences please - any help or advise appreciated. Thanks