Hi all,
I started reading this forum after my dad was first diagnised with AD but haven't visited for a while. Dad is now 57 and although still in the fairly early stages of the disease, he is deteriorating quicker than I thought he would. My mother was his primary carer but sadly, she passed away last week. Although my dad understands that she has gone, his behaviour is not that of a man who has just lost his wife of nearly 30 years. Whist i realise that this is due in large part to his illness, it's heartbraking to watch.
I'm the youngest of three children at 26 and the only daughter. I only moved out of the family home four months ago but regularly visited home to check on both of my parents. We visited my dads social workers yesterday and I have decided to move back home to be with my dad so that I can care for him from monday to friday, and my brothers will take over the responsibility over the weekends. Whilst i love my dad very much and have no problem with taking on this responsiblilty, i am very worried about how i will cope. As well as being a very stubborn person, my dad is also very mistrusting and he is convinced that every time I try to give him his medicine, I am giving him the wrong pills and that I will over dose him. I have checked with his doctor that I am medicating him correctly but he thinks that I am lying to him. I find this very upsetting and it feels like it is harder each time I try.
I work full time at the moment and would like to continue for as long as I am able. My dads social worker is organising for a carer to come round and visit my dad whilst I am at work during the day but i don't think he will take well to this.
Does anyone else have similar experiences to this? I worry about how I will cope with him, especially with his medicine. At the moment, i am still grieving for my mum and I expect that this makes it more difficult to care for my dad. But I'm scared that it will never get any easier and that i will make things worse for him.
Kiara
I started reading this forum after my dad was first diagnised with AD but haven't visited for a while. Dad is now 57 and although still in the fairly early stages of the disease, he is deteriorating quicker than I thought he would. My mother was his primary carer but sadly, she passed away last week. Although my dad understands that she has gone, his behaviour is not that of a man who has just lost his wife of nearly 30 years. Whist i realise that this is due in large part to his illness, it's heartbraking to watch.
I'm the youngest of three children at 26 and the only daughter. I only moved out of the family home four months ago but regularly visited home to check on both of my parents. We visited my dads social workers yesterday and I have decided to move back home to be with my dad so that I can care for him from monday to friday, and my brothers will take over the responsibility over the weekends. Whilst i love my dad very much and have no problem with taking on this responsiblilty, i am very worried about how i will cope. As well as being a very stubborn person, my dad is also very mistrusting and he is convinced that every time I try to give him his medicine, I am giving him the wrong pills and that I will over dose him. I have checked with his doctor that I am medicating him correctly but he thinks that I am lying to him. I find this very upsetting and it feels like it is harder each time I try.
I work full time at the moment and would like to continue for as long as I am able. My dads social worker is organising for a carer to come round and visit my dad whilst I am at work during the day but i don't think he will take well to this.
Does anyone else have similar experiences to this? I worry about how I will cope with him, especially with his medicine. At the moment, i am still grieving for my mum and I expect that this makes it more difficult to care for my dad. But I'm scared that it will never get any easier and that i will make things worse for him.
Kiara