Along with my sister I am the main carer for my 87 year old grandad who was diagnosed with vascular dementia last year. He has recently deteriorated significantly, and as the trained nurse (who works full time) I feel it all falls on my head. He now has a care package of 4 calls daily (male carers) due to inappropriate comments and behaviours. He lives a 40 mile round trip from my home, and I visit most days, either on my way home from work and every weekend where I do his food shop and attend to any needs. We have recently had a careline door alarm fitted due to him wandering, and approx 3 nights per week I get contacted in the night by them due to the activation of the alarm. Wed morn at 12.30am and 12.40am I got contacted to say the alarm was activated and they couldn't get no response, and I had to tarvel up(30 mis one way) I finally climbed into bed at 2.30am and was up at 6 for work. Ive met with the social worker today as I am also a mum to 3 children with a husband who works away and is only home every other week. I have been so emotional the past few days, and feel this is killing me. My mother past away last Sept at the age of 60, and grandad has deteriorated since then. My uncle lives 220 miles away and is not interested. I feel the whole thing is making me ill, as it all falls back on me....my nursing experience is not in dementia or elderly care therefore I feel out of my league with this...the social worker wants him to attend a day centre twice a week to try and tire him out to see if his sleep pattern improves?....any advice? From a very tired grandaughter..