caring for mum at home with my children

[janed]

I am a single mother and have cared for my 82 yr old mum in our home for nearly a year, I work part time and employ private carers for mum as she cannot be left alone at all, my children are 13, 12, 9 and 8 years old, they all love her very much and want her to stay with us, sometimes she gets cross with them and they can get upset or angry with her, however they know she loves them very much and at times has fun with them, sharing her chocolates and having a joke, my eldest daughter (13) is wonderfull with her Granny and often pushes her wheel chair and can get her to do things that she wont do for me! Sometimes the children have to miss out on things because Granny cant or wont come with us but I try to ensure they dont miss much. I was wondering if anyone else was caring for a relative at home with young children and how they helped their children to cope with the ups and downs of it.