Well today we have stopped the care agency coming in, having found out that the carers have not been able to get in to mums since Thursday last week, no one has phoned me, but we knew because mum actually said she had stood behind the net curtain but would not let them in. Also there are no entries in her book.
I had a lengthy conversation with the social worker and she agreed that at the moment mum is OK, my sister in law comes in each morning, does washing, gets mum breakfast, leaves her a sandwich for lunch and dusts and hoovers and tidies round. So really by the time the care worker did come in at lunchtime, there was not much for her to do (if anything).
We had a family chat and decided in light of the fact that the carers were not getting in anyway, we should maybe cancel them as I am sure there are people out there who have no-one to help them who need them more.
Mum has been a lot calmer since she started her medication, seems to be brighter in herself and is sleeping well (sometimes still says "people" are in her house at night time, but they don't seem to bother her) so we thought we would cancel the carers for the time being and see what happens.
The social worker has promised me that if (when) we need them again we can just start them up again very easily without any problems and has made sure I have all the contact numbers we need. She is also putting me in touch with an Age Concern liaison worker who will speak to us from a carers point of view and let us know what is available as and when we need it.
I know some of you will probably think we have been a bit hasty but what do you do if mum won't let them in. They have asked for keys, but mum would put the chain on and bolt the doors if necessary and we don't want her doing that so that we couldn't get in.
We know she cannot put the cooker on as we have disconnected it and she would only be alone for a couple of hours (she has not proved to be a danger to herself other than leaving the cooker on in the past) she just sits and watches Tv until one of us gets there at tea time to make her some tea or take her back with us for tea with us. then we go back to make sure she is ready for bed and to make sure everything is safe before she goes to bed and to give her tablets.
I must add that we have not stopped the carers in a fit of pique, we just feel that it is a shame to have them standing knocking on mum's door and not getting in, also it is a waste of their time, which could be valuable to someone else. We know at present mum is OK and we know they are there again should we need them. I don't want anyone to think we did this in an angry way because we did not, we are just trying to be fair and our priority is mum's welfare, but we do know she is really as well as she can be at present, and we betwen us, as a family, we are doing a fine job of looking after her.
Maggie x
I had a lengthy conversation with the social worker and she agreed that at the moment mum is OK, my sister in law comes in each morning, does washing, gets mum breakfast, leaves her a sandwich for lunch and dusts and hoovers and tidies round. So really by the time the care worker did come in at lunchtime, there was not much for her to do (if anything).
We had a family chat and decided in light of the fact that the carers were not getting in anyway, we should maybe cancel them as I am sure there are people out there who have no-one to help them who need them more.
Mum has been a lot calmer since she started her medication, seems to be brighter in herself and is sleeping well (sometimes still says "people" are in her house at night time, but they don't seem to bother her) so we thought we would cancel the carers for the time being and see what happens.
The social worker has promised me that if (when) we need them again we can just start them up again very easily without any problems and has made sure I have all the contact numbers we need. She is also putting me in touch with an Age Concern liaison worker who will speak to us from a carers point of view and let us know what is available as and when we need it.
I know some of you will probably think we have been a bit hasty but what do you do if mum won't let them in. They have asked for keys, but mum would put the chain on and bolt the doors if necessary and we don't want her doing that so that we couldn't get in.
We know she cannot put the cooker on as we have disconnected it and she would only be alone for a couple of hours (she has not proved to be a danger to herself other than leaving the cooker on in the past) she just sits and watches Tv until one of us gets there at tea time to make her some tea or take her back with us for tea with us. then we go back to make sure she is ready for bed and to make sure everything is safe before she goes to bed and to give her tablets.
I must add that we have not stopped the carers in a fit of pique, we just feel that it is a shame to have them standing knocking on mum's door and not getting in, also it is a waste of their time, which could be valuable to someone else. We know at present mum is OK and we know they are there again should we need them. I don't want anyone to think we did this in an angry way because we did not, we are just trying to be fair and our priority is mum's welfare, but we do know she is really as well as she can be at present, and we betwen us, as a family, we are doing a fine job of looking after her.
Maggie x