Hi My wife is in the early stages and generally not to bad.Ihave been attending carers sessions for quite sometime now and to start with they were good ,But recently have stopped going as most people attending had partners a lot worse and I was comeing away feeling pretty depressed hearing the same storys all the time,Dont get me wrong these sessions are good but I found I couldn't handle any more,I may return at a later date, Is there any one out there feel the same.
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hi
My Hubby is also newly diagnosed but his Mum had both Vascular Dementia and Alzheimer's , so we have travelled the path. What I would like to say is that no 2 cases are the same and although Hubby does a couple of things his Mum did ( continually going the front door some days ) there is a lot he doesn't do.
I honestly feel all we can do is make the best of each day and try not to worry too much about the future, yes I do realise its a lot easier said than done but I do wake thankful every day that my wonderful Hubby is still here
I have not heard of these sessions but they do not seem to be helping , just upsetting you. So as you say a break may be the answer
Hi plumbrite 
Do you mean Carers support groups, I wonder? There are a variety of different groups available in some areas, eg some are for Carers in general, and don't concentrate on dementia. You'd find Carers of all types there, facing different situations, from looking after a severely disabled child, to an adult with physical or learning disabilities. Maybe a group like that might be better for you?
In any case, if you aren't finding group sessions helpful, I'd say yes, give them a break. You can always go back at a later date if you want.
You might want to organise the time in doing something entirely different, like going to the cinema or joining a choir ( interests picked at random!)
Hope you find something suitable.
Lindy xx
Do you mean Carers support groups, I wonder? There are a variety of different groups available in some areas, eg some are for Carers in general, and don't concentrate on dementia. You'd find Carers of all types there, facing different situations, from looking after a severely disabled child, to an adult with physical or learning disabilities. Maybe a group like that might be better for you?
In any case, if you aren't finding group sessions helpful, I'd say yes, give them a break. You can always go back at a later date if you want.
You might want to organise the time in doing something entirely different, like going to the cinema or joining a choir ( interests picked at random!
)Hope you find something suitable.
Lindy xx
My husband is also in the early stages of AD but it is an uncommon start as it is mainly aphasia. We went to a memory cafe where all the other folk living with dementia were further along the journey. I found it helpful meeting other carers but husband was not so comfortable so we have decided to leave it for a while before we go again.
Hello plumbrite66!
Only you know how much your own poor head can take at any one time. The last thing you need is for anything to make you more depressed while you are caring. However, don't cut off contact with anyone you've found to be helpful, as they can make all the difference if you come up with a situation where you might need advice.
Wishing you well.
Only you know how much your own poor head can take at any one time. The last thing you need is for anything to make you more depressed while you are caring. However, don't cut off contact with anyone you've found to be helpful, as they can make all the difference if you come up with a situation where you might need advice.
Wishing you well.
A year ago our first venture was to a memory cafe and though I enjoyed speaking to other carers I could not not see what my husband was getting out of it. However I kept an open mind to other groups and these have been more successful. Football groups twice a month are the biggest success, singing sessions once a month are very popular, film days once a month are a new group and an allotment every week during summer is a very good way to get a nice walk, a cup of tea and a chat with carers and workers too.
Above all get out and socialise and exercise at something as isolation can creep in and become depressing.
I work full-time and thus have no time for all those lovely coffee mornings for which Alzheimer's Society and the Carers Centre faithfully post me leaflets all the time. I wish I could go but you know what - I've found something better. It's called Talking Point. It's been a real eye-opener to read what people have to deal with and to see I'm not alone with certain problems. No one's situation is the same and while I am often glad to find that compared to others I seem to have got off lightly for the time being, it's often also scary to think that the same might be waiting for me in the future. But if it gets too depressing I can simply stop reading a certain thread, and I know that if I ever get into that situation there will be people who have gone through the same and will be there with practical help and warm words of comfort. And that's worth a lot.
