So my dad cares for my mum. Visited them today and she is that bad now that she can't go to the loo without my dad helping in fact he knows the signs she shows when she needs the loo. I helped her today as my dad got upset about it. She took her trousers off completely and tried to wee with her underwear still on. To be honest I had no idea she was that bad. My dad broke down saying he doesn't know what to do with her anymore and is finding it really difficult. How bad do alzheimer sufferers have to be before they are admitted into a care home etc?