1. Expert Q&A: Benefits - Weds 23 October, 3-4pm

    Our next expert Q&A will be on the topic of benefits. It will be hosted by Lauren from our Knowledge Services team. She'll be answering your questions on Wednesday 23 October between 3-4pm.

    You can either post your question >here< or email them to us at talkingpoint@alzheimers.org.uk and we'll be happy to ask them on your behalf.

  1. exhausted 2015

    exhausted 2015 Registered User

    Jul 5, 2015
    624
    Female
    stoke on trent
    How strange that moods can change day to day.. Yesterday I had really had enough couldn't take anymore of not being able to leave dad alone so trapped in all the time, had enough of cleaning up poo had enough of the endless same questions.. Just wanted to walk through the door and not come back or alternatively swallow the contents of the medicine cupboard.. Today nothing has changed regarding the daily routine but I have sailed through it not batting an eyelid as I have cleaned poo from the floor and from the bottom of his slippers and all the other monotonous tasks
    Had no more sleep last night than I usually do so can't put it down to that
    It's strange how we feel we can't cope one day and then be fine the following day
    Is it just me
    Exhausted 2015 xx
     
  2. garnuft

    garnuft Registered User

    Sep 7, 2012
    6,588
    Certainly not just you.

    Sometimes remembering how despairing you felt yet you overcame it, is the very injection of stamina you need to continue.

    You learn to recognise your weaknesses and appreciate your strength.

    Always learning eh? :)


    Sent from my iPhone using Talking Point
     
  3. Tin

    Tin Registered User

    May 18, 2014
    4,826
    UK
    Confusing for sure, but yes I have days like that too. Yesterday for me, I just wanted to walk out the front door and leave mum with her dementia. today same dementia, just able to cope a little better with it all.
     
  4. exhausted 2015

    exhausted 2015 Registered User

    Jul 5, 2015
    624
    Female
    stoke on trent
    Exactly thank you for the support glad it's not just me that sounds selfish doesn't it xx
     
  5. tryingmybest

    tryingmybest Registered User

    May 22, 2015
    619
    Female
    No def not just you!! And no way are any of us selfish doing what we do day in, day out without any time to ourselves. We are heroes!!!! Xxxxx
     
  6. exhausted 2015

    exhausted 2015 Registered User

    Jul 5, 2015
    624
    Female
    stoke on trent
    Oh gosh that has moved me to tears don't consider myself an hero xx
     
  7. tryingmybest

    tryingmybest Registered User

    May 22, 2015
    619
    Female
    Oh I didn't mean to make you cry!!! But we all are and deserve a pat on the back and be praised for what we do and achieve each and everyday in circumstances when so many would walk away and not care. We all should be a lot kinder to ourselves I reckon. Huge hugs to you. You are amazing. Xxxxxx
     
  8. Pear trees

    Pear trees Registered User

    Jan 25, 2015
    441
    We all feel that we can't cope at times, and the problems of caring will never go away, on top of trying to help other family members and working full time. I regularly want to just walk out on my mum for ever after I've spent hours answering same the questions and cleaning up after her only for her to complain that I never do anything for her.
    But we just keep going as best we can and hope that the next time is better than the last time.
     
  9. Summerheather

    Summerheather Registered User

    Feb 22, 2015
    160
    OMG this is me

    I've just spent today feeling so tearful - I quite understand the people that put their mum in respite and then refused to take her back - today I think I could have done it.

    Yesterday I was just better and I don't know why. I think the Alzheimer's has gone down a level and has gotten worse, the abuse from my mum has just gone so bad. She's now been given lorazepam to help with this - when she's on one, she seems to hate me - and won't have it that she can't leave the house and go and live with her mum and dad - I'm just an evil *****.

    Tomorrow I will be fine, I think I'm just tired, between my mum and work and the family - I think sometimes it's just too much.
     
  10. exhausted 2015

    exhausted 2015 Registered User

    Jul 5, 2015
    624
    Female
    stoke on trent
    Thanks again everyone for your support. I really don't know what I would do without this site bless you xxx
     

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