Looking for some opinions because I can't decide what to do.
There are lots of carer support groups on offer, reasonably locally but not one of them has a 'creche' or activity at the same venue for the Dementia sufferer. My husband goes to day care from 10.00am to 3pm on a Wednesday and there is an 8 week 'Caring with Confidence' course on offer, also on a Wednesday from 10am until noon. The same course ran last year and I managed to attend some sessions, but was always around 30 minutes late having dropped off DH at 10 and then travelled 5 miles to the course venue and found a parking space. The course providers seemed to treat my late arrival as a huge inconvenience and when this year's programme was sent out there was a covering letter stressing the importance of attending all the sessions and not being late.
I have explained my situation many times and urged both the local Alzheimers group and Carer's Support Service to consider providing simultaneous care for the 'cared for' person but they just shrug this off and say that it is always difficult. I have found that at the sessions I did manage to attend, I was the only full time 24/7 carer present. All the others had their relative in residential care or had live in professional carers.
My question is should I persevere with trying to attend or, treat my 5 hours a week of freedom, as 'me time' when I do something I enjoy e.g. go swimming or have lunch with a friend, and forget all about Caring and Dementia for a few hours. Thoughts please.
There are lots of carer support groups on offer, reasonably locally but not one of them has a 'creche' or activity at the same venue for the Dementia sufferer. My husband goes to day care from 10.00am to 3pm on a Wednesday and there is an 8 week 'Caring with Confidence' course on offer, also on a Wednesday from 10am until noon. The same course ran last year and I managed to attend some sessions, but was always around 30 minutes late having dropped off DH at 10 and then travelled 5 miles to the course venue and found a parking space. The course providers seemed to treat my late arrival as a huge inconvenience and when this year's programme was sent out there was a covering letter stressing the importance of attending all the sessions and not being late.
I have explained my situation many times and urged both the local Alzheimers group and Carer's Support Service to consider providing simultaneous care for the 'cared for' person but they just shrug this off and say that it is always difficult. I have found that at the sessions I did manage to attend, I was the only full time 24/7 carer present. All the others had their relative in residential care or had live in professional carers.
My question is should I persevere with trying to attend or, treat my 5 hours a week of freedom, as 'me time' when I do something I enjoy e.g. go swimming or have lunch with a friend, and forget all about Caring and Dementia for a few hours. Thoughts please.