It is very interesting reading other people stories and everyone seems to have had a different experience. My mother was diagnosed a year ago with AD and is taking Aricept which seems to have made a positive difference. I have recently requested a Carer's Assessment from the Social Services. . I have been advised to do this so that we are 'on the books' and that when the time comes we can get help more easily. My mother lives alone At the moment Mum is still fairly independent but I fear she is starting to get more confused recently. She point blank refuses to speak to Social Services and says she wants no contact and can manage. All the help I give her is practical ie with finances, remembering who is visiting her, etc but she is still able to wash, dress, cook etc etc. I feel as if Social Services won't offer any help at this stage, but am very worried for the future as I am the only relative leaving nearby. I don't want to leave things too late and have two children under five to care for so my capacity for caring for her myself will be very limited. Is it worth going for the assessment or waiting until later when/if she can be assessed herself?