Wow! Thank goodness there are others out there who feel the same as I do! But isn’t it a shame? So many of us acting as Carers feeling lonely, frustrated and weary and no-one can really do much to help.
I feel for you all. Like some of you, I’ve never had children, my choice. Mum would have moved in with my sister and her husband, they were going to build an annexe for her. But my sister got sick and died in 2010. So the caring role falls to me with no other family help.
I moved my mother (89) in with me last year due to the pandemic and immediately realised how much more help she really needed. I hadn’t realised.
When I finally got Social Services to take notice (took a whole year!) they commented that we weren’t costing them anything so they should be able to help. It’s taking me as much to get used to having people in to my house as it is mum having people come in to get her up. She shouts at them, not me, and tells them to go away and leave her alone. They understand, whilst I find it really difficult.
We’re all epic! Absolute heroes! ?
I feel for you all. Like some of you, I’ve never had children, my choice. Mum would have moved in with my sister and her husband, they were going to build an annexe for her. But my sister got sick and died in 2010. So the caring role falls to me with no other family help.
I moved my mother (89) in with me last year due to the pandemic and immediately realised how much more help she really needed. I hadn’t realised.
When I finally got Social Services to take notice (took a whole year!) they commented that we weren’t costing them anything so they should be able to help. It’s taking me as much to get used to having people in to my house as it is mum having people come in to get her up. She shouts at them, not me, and tells them to go away and leave her alone. They understand, whilst I find it really difficult.
We’re all epic! Absolute heroes! ?