Hi everyone! I am a newly registered to this site, and have found reading the discussion board very useful. I would be grateful if any one has some practical help to offer with my query.
My 79 yr old mother has been diagnosed with AD for 5+ years, she is slowly deteriorating and is cared for full time by my father. In previous years in order to have a break he has taken the odd week holiday and my mother has stayed with myself or my sister (which at the time she has always enjoyed). He now refuses to do this as he says she makes his life so unpleasant for 'abandoning' her and months later still berates him that he says a holiday is 'not worth the effort' This has now also become the case with the carers we had organised to come and sit with Mum. Whilst Mum would be delightful to them, as soon as they went Dad would be at the receiving end of her temper and now he has cancelled them as well. The upshot of all this is that he is having no support at all. He is, not unreasonably, now at the end of his tether.
What can I do to help aleviate this situation? He has no quality of life and now the atmospher between them is dire.
Many thanks.
Annie.
My 79 yr old mother has been diagnosed with AD for 5+ years, she is slowly deteriorating and is cared for full time by my father. In previous years in order to have a break he has taken the odd week holiday and my mother has stayed with myself or my sister (which at the time she has always enjoyed). He now refuses to do this as he says she makes his life so unpleasant for 'abandoning' her and months later still berates him that he says a holiday is 'not worth the effort' This has now also become the case with the carers we had organised to come and sit with Mum. Whilst Mum would be delightful to them, as soon as they went Dad would be at the receiving end of her temper and now he has cancelled them as well. The upshot of all this is that he is having no support at all. He is, not unreasonably, now at the end of his tether.
What can I do to help aleviate this situation? He has no quality of life and now the atmospher between them is dire.
Many thanks.
Annie.