I think you need to start from the point that you need and must have the operation. Once you have a date then get the respite organised and it might be an idea to look for a suitable place now. Will you have help from SS or have to do that yourself? He may take to it very well but that is not your main concern while you are recovering. The future is out of your hands and I think you should concentrate on getting yourself sorted otherwise neither of you benefits.
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I think you need to start from the point that you need and must have the operation. Once you have a date then get the respite organised and it might be an idea to look for a suitable place now. Will you have help from SS or have to do that yourself? He may take to it very well but that is not your main concern while you are recovering. The future is out of your hands and I think you should concentrate on getting yourself sorted otherwise neither of you benefits.
Good luck.
Thank you Mariong, you are right, I believe I can get help from SS, he won’t like it but it’s out of his hands too. I’m seeing own doctor next week and will go on from there. We have been married nearly 55 years now, he’s a bit of a joker though now he sometimes he forgets what the joke is about! We still have lots of laughs, we sing a lot too, he likes music and goes to two singing groups each week. Thank you again for your advice and the advise from other members.