My mother was diagnosed with Az about 12 mths ago-not a surprise to me but a shock. As I live 200 miles away my father is the main carer, but, as their relationship is not close, life is close to untenable for them both.
My father is in denial about her condition, telling me she 'can't be bothered to remember' or 'doesn't want to remember'. He has always been a very difficult person and gets angry very quickly over tirivia because 'it makes me feel better to shout'. So their rows are frequent and often result in one of the storming out of the room.
My mother said to me today when I was visiting that she can't do anything right and 'he' is driving her round the bend. I have tried to explain to my father that my mother's problem means she is unable to remember things from 1 moment to the next but his gets angry and dismisses all attempts to help. I know my mother is suffering greatly. I also think that depression and huge stresses are taking their toll on them both, probably accounting for some of my mother's memory problems and my father's physical problems (one being a skin condition that hasn't been definitively diagnosed) but as trying to get him to recognise the problem causes such anger and rows I'm at a loss. I will be in touch with their GP but I need her to 'keep my name out of it'!! LOL or that will trigger more trouble. Does anyone know how I feel please? Oh and my sister lives in Jordan-2,500 miles away!
My father is in denial about her condition, telling me she 'can't be bothered to remember' or 'doesn't want to remember'. He has always been a very difficult person and gets angry very quickly over tirivia because 'it makes me feel better to shout'. So their rows are frequent and often result in one of the storming out of the room.
My mother said to me today when I was visiting that she can't do anything right and 'he' is driving her round the bend. I have tried to explain to my father that my mother's problem means she is unable to remember things from 1 moment to the next but his gets angry and dismisses all attempts to help. I know my mother is suffering greatly. I also think that depression and huge stresses are taking their toll on them both, probably accounting for some of my mother's memory problems and my father's physical problems (one being a skin condition that hasn't been definitively diagnosed) but as trying to get him to recognise the problem causes such anger and rows I'm at a loss. I will be in touch with their GP but I need her to 'keep my name out of it'!! LOL or that will trigger more trouble. Does anyone know how I feel please? Oh and my sister lives in Jordan-2,500 miles away!