Good Morning all
Very sad and emotional time for my family right now. My nana passed away in hospital on the 23rd February 4 days before her 89th birthday. Most people would say wow what an age to live to, but nana had a lot more years in her. she was nimble, very agile and strong. Her weakness was the dementia but that didn't kill her. I'm struggling to get over her death and i will explain why.
Nana fell on the evening of 7th January due to antibiotics for a urine infection, made her dizzy. In the fall she broke her top vertebrae in her neck. Sounds like that would be the killer? Nope! Nana wore a neck brace but the dementia caused her to forget why she had to keep it on so nana couldn't go home to her sheltered housing flat as she needed 121 care until her neck healed. She was still walking around and wanting to dance and play cards etc and she loved her grub. 3 weeks passed and nana had slowly stopped eating but we finally we got 121 help to move in and help her at home, so we thought her being home would help her get her appetite back but that didn't work and less than 24 hours she was back in hospital under a safeguarding act. What we didn't know is nana was discharged with a chest infection and vomiting blood.
After what seems days and weeks of me visiting everyday begging the doctors to help her, she wasted away right before my eyes and eventually took her last breath on the 23rd February after 4 weeks of starvation and aspiration pneumonia. Nana refused food and medication and the doctors and nurses said ok. They let her refuse. I tried to reason with them and tried to explain nana didn't know she was killing herself, she didn't know she hadn't eaten. Nana kept telling me she had a bug, and other days she mentioned a huge fry up she had eaten that morning. She hadn't eaten in weeks. We have filed a grievance with the hospital and we have said goodbye but i don't feel like i can get over this. I blamed myself although i know its not my fault, i pushed for help, i tried so hard for them to see she didn't want to die. My nana was full of life when she went into hospital and 6 weeks later she was gone I don't ever want anyone to ever go through this. Be aware. Doctors and nurses don't get trained in mental health. Our hospital had no idea how to treat my nana and kept telling me she had rights to make her own choices but nana didn't in my eyes. She didn't know she was hurting herself.
Please, if you ever find yourself in my position, don't assume the hospital know what they are doing because i found out the hard way that they didn't. You assume they are the experts and they will make her better but they didn't. I did what i thought was enough but they kept telling me no. They couldn't intervene and because of this, my nana died. Not from Dementia but from aspiration pneumonia which was caused by her breathing in her blood vomit. Her blood vomit was caused by her starvation.
Very sad and emotional time for my family right now. My nana passed away in hospital on the 23rd February 4 days before her 89th birthday. Most people would say wow what an age to live to, but nana had a lot more years in her. she was nimble, very agile and strong. Her weakness was the dementia but that didn't kill her. I'm struggling to get over her death and i will explain why.
Nana fell on the evening of 7th January due to antibiotics for a urine infection, made her dizzy. In the fall she broke her top vertebrae in her neck. Sounds like that would be the killer? Nope! Nana wore a neck brace but the dementia caused her to forget why she had to keep it on so nana couldn't go home to her sheltered housing flat as she needed 121 care until her neck healed. She was still walking around and wanting to dance and play cards etc and she loved her grub. 3 weeks passed and nana had slowly stopped eating but we finally we got 121 help to move in and help her at home, so we thought her being home would help her get her appetite back but that didn't work and less than 24 hours she was back in hospital under a safeguarding act. What we didn't know is nana was discharged with a chest infection and vomiting blood.
After what seems days and weeks of me visiting everyday begging the doctors to help her, she wasted away right before my eyes and eventually took her last breath on the 23rd February after 4 weeks of starvation and aspiration pneumonia. Nana refused food and medication and the doctors and nurses said ok. They let her refuse. I tried to reason with them and tried to explain nana didn't know she was killing herself, she didn't know she hadn't eaten. Nana kept telling me she had a bug, and other days she mentioned a huge fry up she had eaten that morning. She hadn't eaten in weeks. We have filed a grievance with the hospital and we have said goodbye but i don't feel like i can get over this. I blamed myself although i know its not my fault, i pushed for help, i tried so hard for them to see she didn't want to die. My nana was full of life when she went into hospital and 6 weeks later she was gone I don't ever want anyone to ever go through this. Be aware. Doctors and nurses don't get trained in mental health. Our hospital had no idea how to treat my nana and kept telling me she had rights to make her own choices but nana didn't in my eyes. She didn't know she was hurting herself.
Please, if you ever find yourself in my position, don't assume the hospital know what they are doing because i found out the hard way that they didn't. You assume they are the experts and they will make her better but they didn't. I did what i thought was enough but they kept telling me no. They couldn't intervene and because of this, my nana died. Not from Dementia but from aspiration pneumonia which was caused by her breathing in her blood vomit. Her blood vomit was caused by her starvation.