Hi, I am looking for advice please on how to approach moving a relative into a care home for their safety when they really do not want to go. It is my 87 year old Mother who has Vascular Dementia which has been progressing quite quickly during the past 2 months. Myself and my close family (unfortunately not siblings) have been doing our best to look after her in her own home for 2 years. However, it has become more and more unsafe for her to continue this way. The professional advice is to take her under a premise of another reason, e.g. day care or going for lunch and then for us to leave. Even though I know a care home is definitely the right choice for Mum's safety, health and well-being I just wish I could do it openly and totally honestly, but I know she is not on board with it and thinks she can still live on her own, even after 6 hours at A & E yesterday!