Update
I took what a lot of you said on board about moving Mum to a CH nearer to me. I went to see a couple to get an idea, rang Mum's Dr to see if she would be ok to fly as she has previously had a DVT. Spoke to SW, who said they would need to assess Mum, to see if moving up here is what she wanted?. I asked how were they going to assess this, she said she would give Mum a formal assessment and would be with her about 2 hrs. I pointed out Mum was not capable of this desision as she could not assess dangers and problems that she is not able to remember, but still SW insistent that Mum's views should be listened too. Promised to ring me after assessment.
Assessment takes place and my SIL attends. Mum is asked if she a wants to move up here, No she says, after more talking Mum says she would go and look at carehomes nearby. SW then says Mum is not eligible for a carehome as she is managing as she is!!!! SIL said what was the point of the assessment then, SW said it was just to satisfy me. SIL pointed out Mum's falls and immobility, SW said immobility was a good thing as less chance of falls?...SIL said SW did not use a formal assessment, just chatted to her and accepted what Mum said. I had already spoken to Mum about moving up here prior to assessment, and I could tell she wasn't keen, but she did seem to be coming around to the idea. Now what?
SW has never phoned me, despite my leaving messages. I just want to know how bad do you have to be if Mum is not elligble. Chairbound, incontinent, confused, and having falls. In despair ....?
I took what a lot of you said on board about moving Mum to a CH nearer to me. I went to see a couple to get an idea, rang Mum's Dr to see if she would be ok to fly as she has previously had a DVT. Spoke to SW, who said they would need to assess Mum, to see if moving up here is what she wanted?. I asked how were they going to assess this, she said she would give Mum a formal assessment and would be with her about 2 hrs. I pointed out Mum was not capable of this desision as she could not assess dangers and problems that she is not able to remember, but still SW insistent that Mum's views should be listened too. Promised to ring me after assessment.
Assessment takes place and my SIL attends. Mum is asked if she a wants to move up here, No she says, after more talking Mum says she would go and look at carehomes nearby. SW then says Mum is not eligible for a carehome as she is managing as she is!!!! SIL said what was the point of the assessment then, SW said it was just to satisfy me. SIL pointed out Mum's falls and immobility, SW said immobility was a good thing as less chance of falls?...SIL said SW did not use a formal assessment, just chatted to her and accepted what Mum said. I had already spoken to Mum about moving up here prior to assessment, and I could tell she wasn't keen, but she did seem to be coming around to the idea. Now what?
SW has never phoned me, despite my leaving messages. I just want to know how bad do you have to be if Mum is not elligble. Chairbound, incontinent, confused, and having falls. In despair ....?