Hi all,
Just needed to post this for some feedback on whether what has happened to my dad who has been in a care home for 2 weeks is normal.
My mum went to see him today and found he was dressed in someone else's pyjamas,
No shirt or socks and just 2 jumpers on . He hadn't shaved or been shaved for a couple of days either.
This is not the best home look wise but we were promised good care and he would be looked after.
My mum went into his room and found all his clothes gone which included 4 pairs of trousers, 6 shirts and numerous socks and pants and 2 pairs of pyjamas, all were labelled by the way. His electric razor was also missing. She asked one of the carers who said they were all in the wash. So where's HIS DIGNITY. It's heart breaking to see him slowly decline because of this bloody awful disease but to lose all dignity when someone could have at least help him get dressed in a pair of trousers. What is going to happen tonight, is he just going to bed in what he's wearing. The bottom line is I know it must be hard to look after people with dementia but at the end of the day I thought it was the care that all homes bang on about that mattered most. We've paid to get his haircut Tuesday so lets see what happens.
I bet those in charge wouldn't be happy if it was their dad looking like a tramp
We will talk to the home tomorrow as they did appear to be very reasonable on his first day, but if nothing happens does anyone know if asking for advice from the social worker is the norm. There is such a fine line between not being a nuisance to being genuinely worried
Thanks
Just needed to post this for some feedback on whether what has happened to my dad who has been in a care home for 2 weeks is normal.
My mum went to see him today and found he was dressed in someone else's pyjamas,
No shirt or socks and just 2 jumpers on . He hadn't shaved or been shaved for a couple of days either.
This is not the best home look wise but we were promised good care and he would be looked after.
My mum went into his room and found all his clothes gone which included 4 pairs of trousers, 6 shirts and numerous socks and pants and 2 pairs of pyjamas, all were labelled by the way. His electric razor was also missing. She asked one of the carers who said they were all in the wash. So where's HIS DIGNITY. It's heart breaking to see him slowly decline because of this bloody awful disease but to lose all dignity when someone could have at least help him get dressed in a pair of trousers. What is going to happen tonight, is he just going to bed in what he's wearing. The bottom line is I know it must be hard to look after people with dementia but at the end of the day I thought it was the care that all homes bang on about that mattered most. We've paid to get his haircut Tuesday so lets see what happens.
I bet those in charge wouldn't be happy if it was their dad looking like a tramp
We will talk to the home tomorrow as they did appear to be very reasonable on his first day, but if nothing happens does anyone know if asking for advice from the social worker is the norm. There is such a fine line between not being a nuisance to being genuinely worried
Thanks