Tonight at 5pm, after spending 35 minuets of scouring the internet for information on clubs and events in the local area, something to do to take my mother too, I found out on google a care home which runs a dementia memory cafe club once a month and they also do events every week, for non residents and residents to attend, so I thought I’d phone them to find out more, and what I found, the attitude, the uninterest, left me very unimpressed indeed.
I was only trying to find places to go and take my mother to, and the response was not what I was expecting, the lady I spoke to, demanded that I come down to the home tomorrow with Mum, so she can assess her needs, and to see what events would suit her better, then she went on to say, she has 5 floors of events going on everyday, and it’s important for the safety of her residents (who pay a lot of money to stay there) that they won’t be endangered or disrupted by my mother and her dementia care needs, so she’ll be carefully vettted, I was gobsmacked, I explained that she was a little old lady of 85 with sever dementia who had no idea of who anyone was or even what time of day it is, and in a very non physical aggressive way would end up just sitting in her chair staring at the floor, and certainly not terrorising her paying residents.
Anyway she carried on talking to me like I was an idiot, making me feel absolutely like killing myself, so in the end I hung up on her, what I don’t understand is, why do they advertise and open there care homes doors for non residents to visit for events, and it’s all positive on paper, but in reality it was very negative, rude and snobbish...
Also it’s clearly obvious, that really there is no help when you really want or need it, they say there is, but you either have to pay for it, have a finance assessment, go through a bucketful of red tape and loop holes, and after all that, your basically on your own.
I give up.
I was only trying to find places to go and take my mother to, and the response was not what I was expecting, the lady I spoke to, demanded that I come down to the home tomorrow with Mum, so she can assess her needs, and to see what events would suit her better, then she went on to say, she has 5 floors of events going on everyday, and it’s important for the safety of her residents (who pay a lot of money to stay there) that they won’t be endangered or disrupted by my mother and her dementia care needs, so she’ll be carefully vettted, I was gobsmacked, I explained that she was a little old lady of 85 with sever dementia who had no idea of who anyone was or even what time of day it is, and in a very non physical aggressive way would end up just sitting in her chair staring at the floor, and certainly not terrorising her paying residents.
Anyway she carried on talking to me like I was an idiot, making me feel absolutely like killing myself, so in the end I hung up on her, what I don’t understand is, why do they advertise and open there care homes doors for non residents to visit for events, and it’s all positive on paper, but in reality it was very negative, rude and snobbish...
Also it’s clearly obvious, that really there is no help when you really want or need it, they say there is, but you either have to pay for it, have a finance assessment, go through a bucketful of red tape and loop holes, and after all that, your basically on your own.
I give up.
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