My dad (87) has dementia and is unable to care for himself. Mum (also 87) looks after him but she has her own health problems -diabetes, osteoporosis. She has now broken her wrist after a fall. As she cannot do as much as usual dad's behaviour has deteriorated. Since his diagnosis which he refuses to acknowledge he has been adamant that he will not go into a home and becomes aggressive and abusive when a home is mentioned. Mum is desperate for some respite. I live 250 miles away but visit as much as I can. Any advice as to how to persuade dad to go into care, at least for the short term?