Also I got Essential Caregiver status and when I went into the home and saw what went on I was more horrified. Plenty of staff sitting round in groups chatting to each other while the residents sat dozing Continually. Activities organiser doing nothing. Made it more urgent to get hubby out
Hello,
So sorry about everything you’ve both had to go through and I can truly understand your situation.
My husband went into temporary respite for two weeks. Within a few days there, he had a fall and cut his head on their radiator. I wasn’t informed until he was admitted to hospital a few days after the fall, having suffered two massive seizures. He hadn’t had a seizure for 24 years. (They only made a telephone call to their local team and he wasn’t seen after the fall). In view of his medical history, I told the respite place, I would have called an ambulance to be assessed by paramedics).
I burst into tears at the hospital, as he was now unable to speak, he couldn’t move his right side (arm, hand and leg), was staring at the ceiling and was now nil by mouth.
The hospital staff have given him wonderful care and he is making progress, although he isn’t mobile yet.
A few years back he went into respite care and was admitted to hospital after a massive fall and 18cm x 8cm bruising to his tummy area.
I am now very wary of him going into respite again. However, I do realise there are some brilliant care places out there…
I have cared for him for 31 years, through Aplastic Anaemia, a brain haemorrhage, epilepsy, Multiple Sclerosis for 26 years, a suspected mini stroke and MS Dementia for around 10 years. I care for him 24/7; hence the need for some much needed respite care.
I send you my best wishes.