Hi,
I just wanted to share something with you regarding my 79 year olds Care from respite to full time Care Home and if anyone had shared a similar experience.
My Dad had been in respite for 4 weeks as my mum had had an operation, we paid £1000 a week for this and then had a financial assessment done and sadly couldnt afford to keep him there. The respite home said we couldnt keep him any longer as they didnt have the space anyway and so we had only one week to find somewhere. Eventually with a couple of days to go a place was found. Unfortunately we didnt have time to look over the home. On the day of moving not one of the homes was prepared to take him to his new home, i didnt want the family to do this as i felt it might upset him, and make him think he was going home. Anyway so i hadto pick him up, the home had already lost his glasses and his shoes and without shouting about this i doubt they were that bothered. We got him to his new home, they were very friendly and welcoming, the only thing that really made my heart sink was the room looked like something you would have stayed in as a kid on a school trip, about 30 odd years ago,the shower room looked like an old school boiler room, but what can you do to ease my mums guilt
and explain this is all we can realistically afford, I think this is what makes it so hard is trying to convince yourself the care is more important than the surroundings.
Does anyone have any suggestions to cushion the blow with the way my mum is feeling, because as we all know if my dad really knew where he was, he would run a mile, thanks
I just wanted to share something with you regarding my 79 year olds Care from respite to full time Care Home and if anyone had shared a similar experience.
My Dad had been in respite for 4 weeks as my mum had had an operation, we paid £1000 a week for this and then had a financial assessment done and sadly couldnt afford to keep him there. The respite home said we couldnt keep him any longer as they didnt have the space anyway and so we had only one week to find somewhere. Eventually with a couple of days to go a place was found. Unfortunately we didnt have time to look over the home. On the day of moving not one of the homes was prepared to take him to his new home, i didnt want the family to do this as i felt it might upset him, and make him think he was going home. Anyway so i hadto pick him up, the home had already lost his glasses and his shoes and without shouting about this i doubt they were that bothered. We got him to his new home, they were very friendly and welcoming, the only thing that really made my heart sink was the room looked like something you would have stayed in as a kid on a school trip, about 30 odd years ago,the shower room looked like an old school boiler room, but what can you do to ease my mums guilt
and explain this is all we can realistically afford, I think this is what makes it so hard is trying to convince yourself the care is more important than the surroundings.
Does anyone have any suggestions to cushion the blow with the way my mum is feeling, because as we all know if my dad really knew where he was, he would run a mile, thanks