I have recently joined the group, and would like to share with you ,how i am finding it very difficult to understand the somewhat double standards , and the unfairness now happening in the care sector . I am not permitted to visit my mother who has dementia , and has been living in her carehome for a year , i have visited every day in that time, and my sister three times a week, ( before that caring for my mother in her own home for 10 years,) I am presently only permitted to wave to her at the window , mums room is on the first floor, so she cannot hear what i am saying to her either, (the staff kindly open the window for her, but there is an opening of about 3 inches , as it has a safety catch on it. ) Mum is hard of hearing , so telephoning is not an option, I fully understand lockdown is necessary , there to protect the residents ,and staff ,and thier families from this awful virus, but surely with the right precautions , including ,ie, temp testing , PPe etc, exceptions and compassion needs could be considered ,maybe just for one hour ,one nominated - family member , a couple of times a week , pre -planned with the home. I see the pain and anguish each evening as i wave to my mum as she dosent understand why her family have abandoned her , this is killing me and her. Even more upsetting is the fact that am a very experienced and highly skilled long serving ,local authority support worker , (now being classed as a critical care worker ) ! .,expected as of next week , to work in a local care home , (supporting their staff) which i am obviously willing to do. This however will be done without me being tested first for the virus !! , i really am finding this whole thing very frustrating and strange, the stress this is having a very negative effect on my own health. This morning i recieved a call from the care home , as my mum had a fall, at 1 am this morning, paramedics were called , thankfully nothing broken, so you can imagine how i am now feeling right now , im desperate, i appreciate there must be many other families going through a similar nightmare.