Hi I have posted before but briefly..Mum was sectioned over 2 years ago while suffering from severe delirium. Eventually diagnosed with Alzheimers and went back home for the last 2 years with 4 x a day care package. All went well until the last 6 months where she went down hill, not recognising her home, asking to go home etc. She became very frail and ended up falling multiple times and she was admitted from hospital. She spent 2 weeks there and was discharged to a CH for respite which I chose, very quickly to prevent the NHS sending her somewhere awful like they did before.
She has been there 10 weeks now. i am pretty happy with it, its a lovely peaceful location, just 20 residents and it is mixed, a few dementia residents and the rest not. The SW went to see her today and rang me to tell me that she still qualifies for section 117 after care funding and they recommend she stays there. Now mum doesn't mind it there and says the food is good, residents are nice but she is convinced she is going home. Her house is up for sale (her request) as she can no longer manage stairs but she thinks we (I assume me and her although I have not lived with her for 35 years!) are getting a bungalow. My question is, as there is no way she can live alone anymore, is what do I say? Tell her straight she's staying there every time I see her as she forgets all our conversations or just lie, basically and say it's just for now until she's stronger etc? I have to admit I dread the visits as the subject of when she can leave inevitably comes up.
Any advice appreciated, I am feeling so stressed about it and wondering if I should have tried a live in carer first.
She has been there 10 weeks now. i am pretty happy with it, its a lovely peaceful location, just 20 residents and it is mixed, a few dementia residents and the rest not. The SW went to see her today and rang me to tell me that she still qualifies for section 117 after care funding and they recommend she stays there. Now mum doesn't mind it there and says the food is good, residents are nice but she is convinced she is going home. Her house is up for sale (her request) as she can no longer manage stairs but she thinks we (I assume me and her although I have not lived with her for 35 years!) are getting a bungalow. My question is, as there is no way she can live alone anymore, is what do I say? Tell her straight she's staying there every time I see her as she forgets all our conversations or just lie, basically and say it's just for now until she's stronger etc? I have to admit I dread the visits as the subject of when she can leave inevitably comes up.
Any advice appreciated, I am feeling so stressed about it and wondering if I should have tried a live in carer first.