Hi all,
My family today had to make a decision with regards to my Mum who was admitted to a care home at the end of summer 2014. She has recently been refusing to eat and now needs assistance getting around which wasn't the case when she turned 70 last September. It's really frightening how quickly things are progressing and the home suggested that would be the case. The advice was that if she was resuscitated that she would be in a much worse state.
I feel so bad as it feels like agreeing with that idea is giving up on her. I feel like there should be more hope and more they can do. It's a really bad feeling thinking at any minute we could now lose her and based on the agreement made they won't do anything to help.
As recently as a month or so ago she could recognise people and respond to things. We did have adverse reactions at times and unpleasant responses as expected.
Is she really that close to the end of her life? I really don't know what to think...
I've seen people who are very much chairbound and non responsive but still there, would she be likely to go to that. I don't know whether to expect months a year or more or even just weeks.
My family today had to make a decision with regards to my Mum who was admitted to a care home at the end of summer 2014. She has recently been refusing to eat and now needs assistance getting around which wasn't the case when she turned 70 last September. It's really frightening how quickly things are progressing and the home suggested that would be the case. The advice was that if she was resuscitated that she would be in a much worse state.
I feel so bad as it feels like agreeing with that idea is giving up on her. I feel like there should be more hope and more they can do. It's a really bad feeling thinking at any minute we could now lose her and based on the agreement made they won't do anything to help.
As recently as a month or so ago she could recognise people and respond to things. We did have adverse reactions at times and unpleasant responses as expected.
Is she really that close to the end of her life? I really don't know what to think...
I've seen people who are very much chairbound and non responsive but still there, would she be likely to go to that. I don't know whether to expect months a year or more or even just weeks.