My mum was diagnosed with Alzheimer's 3 years ago and has lived at home, alone since then. She has deteriorated a lot in the last 18 months but was so fiercely independent she would not accept help from anyone apart from me. She wouldn't see her friends as she was embarrassed by her illness. I had to lie to her about getting a companion from an agency to come in and have a cup of tea with her, I told her it was a service from the GP surgery for anyone over 80 living alone.
At the beginning of July the day I always dreaded arrived, I called after work to see her to find the downstairs curtains still closed. She was on the floor in the living room, where I can only assume she had been all day. She wasn't hurt in anyway but shaken and confused.
She has just spent 6 weeks in hospital, the confusion has got worse and she now needs 24hr supervision. My brother and I had to make the decision to find a care home, which she moved in to on Monday, I thought I would feel a huge weight lifted off my shoulders as she was safe and cared for, however I feel worse this week.
I hate visiting because she can't understand what I'm saying, she talks in her own language with made up words. It is constantly on my mind, I'm not sleeping and feel like running away to a remote Island where nobody can find me.
We are selling her house and all her possessions to fund the care home and it feels so wrong that she knows nothing about it. I know it's the right decision for her safety and wellbeing but I have a constant feel of guilt over everything . Does everyone feel this way and will the guilt ever go away?
At the beginning of July the day I always dreaded arrived, I called after work to see her to find the downstairs curtains still closed. She was on the floor in the living room, where I can only assume she had been all day. She wasn't hurt in anyway but shaken and confused.
She has just spent 6 weeks in hospital, the confusion has got worse and she now needs 24hr supervision. My brother and I had to make the decision to find a care home, which she moved in to on Monday, I thought I would feel a huge weight lifted off my shoulders as she was safe and cared for, however I feel worse this week.
I hate visiting because she can't understand what I'm saying, she talks in her own language with made up words. It is constantly on my mind, I'm not sleeping and feel like running away to a remote Island where nobody can find me.
We are selling her house and all her possessions to fund the care home and it feels so wrong that she knows nothing about it. I know it's the right decision for her safety and wellbeing but I have a constant feel of guilt over everything . Does everyone feel this way and will the guilt ever go away?