Sorry for upsetting people by posting this, but something dreadful has happened to my husband's grandmother. She was seriously sexually assaulted in a care home a few days ago by one of the other residents. The police are considering if he is fit enough to charge, as they both have dementia. It raises the question of strangers living closely together in a care home, care home security and changes in personality in people with dementia. I don't know how badly she took it, surely terribly - her short term memory is poor, but it must exacerbate the dementia greatly. My husband's family are so upset they don't want to discuss it with us and we live at opposite ends of the country so I only know the bare details. It's just awful, I've been struggling to get my head round it all day. It is apparently a council run care home that is due to close shortly and the staff, my in-laws say, 'don't care' - admittedly I'm getting this secondhand. I just want people to know to consider the dangers. I know this must be really rare, and I don't want to give people nightmares.